If you’re planning your wedding, or you’ve been around someone planning their wedding, you’ve probably heard this before: it’s going to be a blur. It’ll be over before you know it, and you won’t remember a thing! We’ve heard it all too. But we don’t believe it has to be that way. We believe you can remember your wedding day if you take a few seconds throughout your day to pause and soak it all in. We’ve compiled an easy list of five secrets for remembering your wedding day, and our hope is that you do remember your wedding day because it’s going to be one of the best days ever (or the best day of your life!).

Plan Ahead

We know from planning our own wedding that there are SO many things to keep track of. But one thing that kept us sane/going was remembering the reason why we were planning. At the end of it all, we knew we were going to spend the rest of our lives with the person we love.

One of our secrets for remembering your wedding day is to plan ahead. Plan now, so that you’re not stuck planning on your wedding day. Write your vows ahead of time. Choose your wedding day perfume and set it aside. Gather all of your details and set them in one spot for your photographer. Meet with your wedding planner a couple of days prior to your wedding day so everyone is on the same page. We promise you’ll want to be present on your wedding day, spending all of your time with the amazing group of family and friends that have gathered to celebrate you, beginning your legacy of love. Plan now, so you won’t stress then!

Pause. Breathe. Listen.

This is your wedding day! You’ve planned this day for months, if not years. It’s easy to get caught up in the timeline and rush of your day. There are so many people who will want to see you and give you a hug. And there hasn’t been one wedding (literally) we’ve been to where the bride didn’t stop midway through the morning and have a little moment of shock with how quickly time is passing!

But it’s important to take a moment to pause, breathe, and listen. You can do this at any part of your wedding day, even if it’s only for 30 seconds at a time. Hear the music and the laughter of your family. See the joy and the decorations you planned. Remember to taste your food and drinks. Pause, breathe, and listen. Soak in the special moments of your wedding day. Believe us, you’re going to want to remember the day you married your best friend.

Smell Your Flowers

Smelling your bouquet is another one of our secrets for remembering your wedding day. The sense of smell is closely linked with memory, probably more so than any of our other senses. So, we like to encourage our couples to pause and smell their bouquet during times they want to remember something important.

Some of our favorite moments for you to smell your bouquet is before your first look, before you walk down the aisle, and before your grand entrance. Pausing to take a deep breath of something that is unique to your wedding day will ground you and will help these memories stick with you for years to come. When you’re sitting with your husband and holding his hand, smell your flowers. When you’re watching your parents and their parents on the dance floor, smell your flowers. We promise these are the things you’ll want to remember forever. And these are the kinds of moments that will stay with you if you take the time to savor them.

Trust Your Team

One of our last secrets of remembering your wedding day is to trust your team. You chose each of your wedding professionals to design, implement, and capture your day in all of its splendor. And they know that. You are their main priority and you’re in good hands. Don’t worry about your dream team, instead, be present on your wedding day. Set down your phone and enjoy getting ready with your besties. Play games, talk, but most of all, enjoy the time you have with the people you love.

Let It Be

We all dream of the perfect wedding day. The day that the forest animals will transform you into a princess to marry your prince charming. And sometimes, wedding days go exactly like that. And that’s wonderful! But sometimes they don’t. And you know what? They are still wonderful! As one of our favorite bands of all time says, let it be. Your wedding day is special because it’s yours. Your husband, your family, your legacy of love is just starting. So whatever happens, whether it’s perfect, or maybe a little less than ideal. Let it be, and be present on the day that you married your best friend.

How We’ll Help You Remember Your Wedding Day

Our number one goal is getting incredible pictures that you’ll cherish for the rest of your lives. But our second and equally important goal is to help you create a legacy of presence. We’ll guide you to be present on your wedding day so you’ll experience the celebration more deeply than you ever thought possible. We’ll find times throughout your wedding day to help and remind you to be present. We want to encourage you at certain points to take a breath and slow down to experience all the special moments, big and small, fully.

To learn more about us, how we can serve you, and how we can help you create a legacy of presence, fill out our contact form or send us an email at hello@jocelynandspencer.com. We’re looking forward to hearing from you!